Drama: Stays Crunchy! Even in Milk!

If you've been around in SL for any length of time then you're already aware that Drama is a predominant part of life and culture here. It's really the glue that holds us all together :) And as much a part of our culture is the self-righteous proclaimations of hating drama.

I can't remember the last time I actually said the words: "I hate drama". And if I evaluate this in myself, I find it's good and bad... Good because look... I am a part of this very blog you're checking out. To say I hate drama would be fairly to extremely hypocritical. Bad, because what's the alternative to saying those three little words? Take a Pro Drama stance? I'm not really campaigning for more, but what's to hate? Sure, it sucks when you are being bombarded with opposing viewpoints or in an argument with someone that you can't seem to win, or when dealing with anyone who is different than you. These are all part of relating to other people. You can't just lump someone else's opinion or their choice of how or where to share it into the bin labeled 'drama'. There are times when I love a good drama. Honestly, I usually do. Does this mean I start drama? Don't we all? Be honest. It's not a conscious decision usually... I shall go and start some drama... unless you're trying to promote a new product and thinking any publicity is good publicity.

“What is drama but life with the dull bits cut out”

I'm bored with the ever popular soapbox stand on hating drama. I'd like to point out that it's usually the ones with the highest flying I-Hate-Drama flags that start the most shit... or suddenly *hand to forehead* find themselves smack dab in the middle of ugly nastiness and they can't seem to imagine how they got there. Woe is you. This isn't always true, but I have learned that those with the anti-drama warnings in their profiles, the NO DRAMA signs posted in their homes... they are the ones to steer clear of. You're so sick of "drama", yet you insist on having relationships in sl, writing a blog, commenting on posts (anon or not), sharing your opinion with the world at large, and listening to the opinions of others, or talking about other people (and you know you do), etc. And low and behold drama *magically* finds you. In essence, to stop the dreaded drama I suggest you live in a hole.

So, when you're stating to the sl world at large that you are "Anti-Drama", what message is it that you are hoping to give? 'splain, please? Is it that you are declaring to the world that you've seen it, done it, have the tee shirt, and now you need a rest? And what exactly is your definition of drama? Did someone get too serious? Say something you didn't want to hear? Call you out for something? What is it that makes it drama? What I've noticed is that drama has been the catchall for any subject matter that stirs attention and makes you wanna choke a bitch. "oh drama, drama, drama." Translation: I am a very important and busy person who knows many interesting and challenging people (insert exasperated sigh)." All this seems dramatic in nature by the way. So you label the subject matter, incident, or person as Drama... we all breathe a sigh of relief and disregard it as not worthy of our attention, and beneath the high and mighty place where we like to reside. Drama is a part of slife, it seems. There is good and bad. There are starters, stirrers, and watchers.

What's the difference between good and bad drama? Who determines which is which?