Sayonara betches! (no, really... for realsies)

Jell: Hi there I'm JellyBean Madison from the popular web blog MGG2SL...
Rosie: even though she hasn't blogged here in over 6 months.
Jell: Here at MGG2SL we're always looking to improve your SL experience...
Rosie: Does that mean people are actually following our suggestions?
Jell: *sigh* No... they're sheep.
Rosie: I hate blingtard sheep. But sheep in general are cute?
Jell: As you may know it's been slow over here...
Rosie: and talent is lacking.
Jell: So we're finally ready to say sayonara betches and pack our bags.
Rosie: Bet ya thought that would never happen? Am I right?
Jell: The time has more than come, for us to go
Rosie: We *know* this.
Jell: It's been swell but the swelling's gone down
Rosie: It was the best of times, it was the worst of times
Jell: oh like when we saw Lala the skank changing right in Last Call like it was Walmart or something
Rosie: We're gonna make like a banana and split... this blog is over
Jell: Just like the careers over at Brutal Honesty
Rosie: Thanks for the memories
Jell: Don't let the door hit you in the ass on your way out
Rosie: Last one out's a rotten egg!
Jell: with badly-adjusted prim hair!
Rosie: and bling!
Jell: Do not fret though because we have somewhere else to herd you sheep. Consider us your shepherds as we lead you over to the Revolution!
Rosie: What is *that*, you say? Well, it is the ever so slightly popular AWNM blog combining with us - the ever so popular POP-U-LAR blog, MGG2SL. Plus the viewpoints and ramblings of other creative forces who will share with you too!
Jell: Bringing the best of the best in one place. If you want the truth...
Rosie: You can't handle the TRUTH! (oh god just what we've all been missing... more truth innuendo)
Jell: Then follow us over there & let us enlighten you. :)

In case you missed it: viva la REVOLUTION!



With lots love, hugs, kisses & snorts...
JellyBean Madison & Rosie Shark

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Rosie says-
We are by no means bringing up a new subject. Just review the fashion feed, if you don’t know what I mean. Phoenix has offered her two cents, and many other people (Tenshi, Melanie Kidd, Jhuzen Ketsugo) also weighed in.

Although I feel the plight of the devastated fashionista who is now facing the virtual black list for showing off items that may allegedly be stolen, I have to ask, what’s with the self-importance? Although I don’t have any factual statistics, I would suspect that a very small percentage of the actual sl users follow the fashion feed. Most of those users, are bloggers. Maybe this is why so many are worried about their values being questioned as a result of reviewing what turns out later to be stolen content. Let’s face it, we all blog in a forum of our peers.

Kitty says-
"Second Life fashion bloggers are valued and sought after" umm nope, sorry. Second Life fashion bloggers are only valued by their peers and sought after by those hyping their own celebrity. Maybe once upon a time, fashion bloggers were, indeed, the dogs testes. Now however they're a pox on the internet, clammering and bitching to be heard above the vast sea of bitching clammerers. Imagine, if you will, a herd of wildebeasts (or gnu's if you prefer) crossing the treacherous river. Now imagine the designers as crocodiles. They'll pick a few tasty morsels to lavish their attention on, whilst leaving the rest to carry on with their beligerent faces well and truly slapped. Fact is, there are too many bloggers out there for anyone to be keeping count and lumping them all together and describing them as 'valued' and 'sought after' is like desperately needing every single blade of grass in your garden.

Rosie says-
I find that suggesting that designers look out for you presumptuous as well as slightly hypocritical. Look at how people are all looking out for certain designers right now. Notice how everyone is quick to jump on the bandwagon when the accusations start flying. How’s that for supporting someone? Why not let people figure stuff out first?

Fashion bloggers definitely have their place in the economy of SL, for sure! I, for one, shop almost entirely from the feed.

Kitty says-
At the end of the day you are not providing a service.., binmen, the police and the guy who cleans the shit out of the bottom of the coffee vending machine are providing a service, you are doing something for yourself. For whatever reason that may be, the fame, the freebies, the sick to deathness of people walking around looking like twats.. Whatever! At best it's a hobby, at worst an obsession. You could pack up and run and be forgotten in a week. You're not vital so get over it and carry on doing what you do.

Rosie says-
Why would a designer make a blanket announcement to over 60+ individual fashion bloggers about a private DMCA matter? Ask the people who are most active in working to protect intellectual copyrights, and they will tell you that the best way to handle a DMCA, or cases like these is privately. But instead, this letter suggests that the “victim” inform the entire fashion community, basically. Because, in essence, that is exactly what you suggest when you say privately let bloggers know. Which bloggers? Is there a hierarchy? Do some deserve to know more than others?

And we all know that fashion bloggers are tooootally discreet, totally tight-lipped. Some said as much in comments on all these blogs.

Kitty says-
How is being told of a DMCA filing going to help anyone, I'm going to DMCA Rosie cos she totally copied my arse, she may not have 'copied' it, but it looks like my arse, it has two cheeks and is deliciously pert and lovely. So I'll file my DMCA and tell ALLLLLL the bloggers to NOT post pictures of, or even look at Rosies arse, cos she "totalleh copied meh".... Right.. Okay then..

The point is your going to be changing your opinion every five seconds because someone has beef with someone else, leaving the poor lil blogger looking more fickle than ever.

Rosie says-
I don’t blog fashion much, but recently I was faced with a situation where I questioned the originality of a new release that I’d been given. All I could do was evaluate what I had and what I know. Some of us have longer experience in seeing what’s offered and what’s out there and some are newer and will have a harder time finding what’s real. But in the end, I believe that most people wake up and think: I’m gonna do my best today.

That some can be interpreted as ‘not caring’ whether they are blogging stolen content or not could be just a matter of not having all the facts, yet, or just not siding with the witch hunt side. What a perfect opportunity to hurt your competition… quietly IM the well-known fashion bloggers and let them know that so and so is selling stolen content.

I totally echo the sentiment that no one will fault you for unknowingly reviewing stolen content… it’s because the DMCA issues are so private that you prolly wouldn’t even know. And because I believe that no one can be everywhere all of the time, I would think that if a newer blogger does indeed blog stolen content, then it’s the responsibility of anyone who can, to let the person know what has transpired… Let me clarify that: let them know when there are actual facts to base if off of. He Said, She Said, isn’t helping matters.

Club Etiquette: The DJ

Ah yes we've reached the 3rd and final installment in the MGG2SL chronicles for Club Etiquette. Now we shall sit and explain in further detail what the DJ does for club on Second Life®.

For this article, it was very difficult to pick just ONE DJ to consult since as an SL® DJ myself I know quite a few. I decided to ask Rosie Barthlemess, the DJ Manager of Lounge of Dreams since she's been as much of an influence on me as I have upon her.

So let's talk DJing...

The first, and most obvious job for any DJ is to play live music for a location. To play that music you need 4 basic items:

1) Music
2) Microphone
3) Digital Player
4) Stream

Music is the easy part since most aspiring DJs already have a decent library to start with. As far as getting new songs? Most folks use Limewire since it's fast and has a very broad network, though you don't have to be limited to using that. Also, be willing to expand your musical genres. Rosie suggests, "There's a lot to be said for versatility. I think it will open some doors for you as a DJ if you're able to accommodate not only the venue in which you're playing, but the varied tastes of a crowd if you're somewhere with no specific format. And, by paying attention to different genres -- even if they aren't your favorite kind of music -- you can increase your knowledge of those other genres, and sort of keep track of what's popular." You should also have your download program open during your sets if possible so that you can get patrons' requests played as quickly as possible.

Quick requests = better tips

Oh and before I move onto the next topic...

BACK UP YOUR MUSIC!!! I've seen too many DJs who've had their hard drives crash and their hard earned libraries deleted. I hate to be a hardass about this, but you don't back up your music then you're just asking for trouble.

A microphone is also a must since you have to talk to your audience. You don't have to spend a fortune on one, however. A decent $15-30 mic should do fine as long as your voice is crystal clear when you talk. Most lower priced gaming headsets are perfect for this... and if you already are using Voice Chat, then you have a double benefit.

Now here comes the tough one... the music player. Unless you plan to be serious about it... there's no reason spend a bunch of money on a digital player, right? If you want to just 'try it out' and deal with the basics, then Winamp is your bag. In fact some DJs still use Winamp because it's just much easier to manage. If you do want to take the next step, you can download SAM (Spacial Audio MediaCast) which has many more options to make your DJ show unique. You can download a free copy to try out and tweak, but Spacial Audio did the sneaky thing of throwing in an automated voiceover every 5 minutes that "reminds" you buy the full version.. and yes it -can- be heard by everyone else hearing your stream. You're better off paying for it in the long run or *cough*finding a crack code*cough* to use instead. Be warned, though... there's a BIG difference between SAM Broadcaster... and SAM Party DJ. Learn more about SAM here.

Finally... you gotta have a stream to play your stuff on, right? Now in -most- cases a club will provide a stream for the DJ already. In some rare occasions (like for store openings or private parties) the DJ will have to provide his or her own. Which is the best? Well most folks I know use SHOUTcast, but there's dozens of stream providers out there to choose from. Prices and payment plans vary, but do shop around and look for things like bandwidth and internet security. If you plan to DJ for established clubs, then you probably don't have to worry about getting your own stream. If you're a more freelance DJ, then mentioning that you have your own stream will be a big boost to getting you gigs.

Now beyond those four things, there is some other details you should keep in mind.

Just like with Hosting and Dancing, NEVER beg for tips. You can kindly remind folks where your tipjar is ('cause tipjars on SL® can be anything from teddy bears to coffins & so often patrons get confused) "...but as soon as people feel like they're being pressured for their money, they'll leave. I think begging for tips is unbecoming, definitely," sez Rosie.

Last but certainly not least, you need to learn how to feel the crowd. Rosie suggests on the topic of how often to speak on the microphone, "...if you ask five DJs, you'll get five different answers. I vary, anywhere between every 3-5 songs, to once an hour, to every 30 minutes or so. I really find it depends on the crowd, how many 'announcements' you have to make, things like that. If I'm with a group of 3-5 people and I've just spoken on the mic, and then suddenly 10 people come in, I might break back in after one or two songs just to introduce myself and offer requests, if I don't do it in chat. But, if it's a core group of people and the dynamic of the group hasn't changed much, I won't talk as much. But I think talking on the mic adds a personal element, and I think letting people know you're live and paying attention to what they want is a benefit." Also don't forget that dressing up for the event you're DJing at shows that you care not only about the club and all the other staff members' hard work, but also helps the patrons get a better idea what the event is. After the host and the dancers, they look to YOU for information from how you look to how to talk on the microphone.

Okay this ended up being the longest of the three posts, but in truth there's a LOT to DJing that goes on behind the scenes which makes it just as tough as Hosting and Dancing. I give a great deal of thanks to Rosie B for her input and hope that this 3-part series has given you all a bigger view of what club employees on Second Life® do to keep YOU entertained.

How Does Your Friend's List Rate?

Just like the real world, status symbols are popular in Second Life, but in the virtual world they are so much more attainable. Any three week old muppet can shed the bling and scamper about the grid with a stack of Lindens and purchase their way into being a desirable object. The real indicator of SL status however is one that only you can see, I'm talking about the friends list. Tucked away in the button carrying the innocuous name of Communicate is your rung on the ladder. As they say, it's not who you are, but who you know. Whether you got that SLebrity clothing designer through manipulation, persuasion or by actually being the sparkly shining light of their lives doesn't matter. What does matter is they are on the list.

Try to look at it like pokemon (I find many things look better if you look at them in this way but that's beside the point) or any other addiction starting trading card game. It's not what it looks like but what it does. Mew looked like a melted jellybaby but still opened up a whole chapter on pwnage when.. But I digress.

My point is that often in the Calling Card Trading Game™ you'll find that it's QUALITY, not quantity. You may have 324 names on your list but if Bertie McGertison has only one friend going by the name of Starley Thereian, then it's game over love. But please don't pass over the little people. You'll be pleasantly surprised if Mikey69 Cumalot who you met in the free sex s.. Maitreya, turns out to be the hottest cock merchant since Stroker himself.

So how does your list measure up? Well rather that write up the 'Who's Who?' of Second Life, Rosie went with the easy option and created this feindish little quiz for y'all to enjoy/hate/bicker over.


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Just what kind of friend are you? Are people beating down doors to get you on their list? Just how far does your scope spread across the grid? Do you have the friend's list to die for?
Take our short quiz and find out!

1. You know what they say... it's not what you know, it's WHO you know. And more importantly, how many of the who's you know. Give yourself 1 point for each "friend" on your friend's list. Do not include people you consider contacts only. Give yourself 1 extra point if you appear in their profile picks. When *who* you know has more personalities than a soap opera diva, this can detract from the brilliance of your list. Take 1 point away for every alt on your list. (any names other than the main account for this person).
2. There are a few ungettable-gets you won't find on most lists. We aren't certain of all the reasons why someone might not commit to the trading of friendship markers. Elusive? Shy? Eccentric?Give yourself 10 points each if you have either of the following people on your list:
   Anshe Chung
   Philip Linden
3. There are alot of reasons why people become friends. Some people you've known forever... back when they loitered in sand boxes, wore default hair, or twirled their non-flexi titty tassels while grinding on a pre-SineWave dance pole in some strip joint just to earn enough to pay for their next Xcite! update . And who would know that they would become the sought after, SLebrity they are today? Give yourself 5 points for each person on your list who's lived the rags to riches slife. *note: you must still talk to them occasionally beyond you stalking them to qualify for these points. Though it is honorable that these people mean alot to you, you might not be the best judge of their SLebrity status. Subtract 3 points if you have to explain who they are when you're busy name-dropping.
   
4. One of the most important credos of friendship is special privileges. Sure you may have a whole lotta names of productive, successful content creators on your list, but if they aren't kicking down the new releases to you before the general public, well you might not mean squat to them. Give yourself 3 points for each friend on your list who gives you stuff before they release it in their store. Quality does count, however, so just go on and subtract the 3 points if what you've been given is crap (no pun intended). But! Add 7 points if they've named any of their creations after you.
5. Bloggers are the scribes of our today and tomorrow. In order to secure your rightful place in society on the grid, it's important that your name is a household commodity to these ehistorians. Give yourself 3 points for each ~consistent~ blogger on your list. Give yourself a bonus of 4 points for each one that's blogged you.
6. Give yourself 1 point for everyone on your list that you've cybered. Subtract 4 if any of them turned out to be the opposite gender of what they claimed. Add 9 points if you've done two of them at the exact same time. Subtract the 1 point for each one that disappeared off the face of the grid after their encounter with you.

-9 - 100 pts:
You are new to secondlife and/or you are realizing that it's not your cup of tea. You are a selective friend who cherishes the few close friends you have.
OR
You're a shut-in who makes people feel awkward enough to accept your offer of friendship initially only to cut the card later when you're not online.
101- 200 pts:
You're a social butterfly who knows the meaning of what it is to be a friend. You value friendship above status quo and you look to find the wonderful things about the people you keep close.
OR
You've been around too long to have this few points. Your grid-etiquette may be in serious need of a makeover or else it's time to slack at work and spend more time in sl cultivating beneficial relationships.
200- 400 pts:
You are well-respected and widely recognized as the best friend anyone could ever have. You have a happy, likable disposition and generally make those around you feel they are important and special in your presence.
OR
You are a relentless card-dropping whore who manipulates the staying power of those on your list by a timely IM to say "hi" or other superficial gestures intended to make the other person rethink obliterating you the next time they consider doing some spring cleaning on their list.
401+ points:
Congratulations! You are untouchable and have mastered the Calling Card Trading Game™. Your list and the names on it are the most valuable of your sl assets and your name is one sought after by many others with lists to build.

She Said (She Said) - Valentine's Day

Hate Valentine's Day as much as I do?

I know you do! It's a trumped up holiday. In fact I recently ran a poll on my personal blog. 39% of women polled were looking forward to it, while the other 61% were ready to make it stop!

"But, hey, aren't you with the most fantastic guy in all of SL Jelly?" Um... well... Yes, yes I am, but that doesn't mean that I haven't always hated Vday.

You're missing the point... love isn't a one-day a year event, sponsored by Hallmark, Hershey's Kisses, and the American Florists Association! If you can't show someone you love them the other 364, then what's the point?

And why should everyone who doesn't feel like being all lovey-dovey have to deal with your big mushy red hearts, kissy fishy faces, "I love you" shoutage from highest hilltops, and gaggy sweet-talk for an entire day - in February, no less! Are you trying to increase America's suicide rate?

Steak & Blow-job day. It's a day for him to buy flowers that'll die in 3 days and dinner...and you spend the evening on your knees giving head. "Nay," I say. Nay to this year being spent in the same "assume position".

Here's a JellyBean quick guide to surviving Feb. 14 without shooting *everyone* in your path with your badass glocks.

-Wear black, and lots of it. In fact there are so many anti-Valentine's day shirts, some are even 1L, go buy one of those.

-If someone else in the same sim has received flowers, chocolate, singing telegrams, and other forms of dating expressions, glare at them. Snarling and grunting optional.

-Same goes for anyone wearing excessive amounts of red. Especially if they are wearing heart-shaped items like pins, head bobbers, bling, etc.

-Later in the day, pretend to eat the chocolate, run the flowers through a food processor, and for realsies beat the crap out of and/or shoot the singing telegram people. (Most people will thank you for this, anyway).

-For the rest of the day, pout over the fact that you really want chocolate now.

-Return to your home and destroy at least one item given to you by an ex from your inventory (ya know you kept something). Delete it, purge your trash bin. Feel guilty. IM the ex. Make up story about having a hot date.

-Log out. Watch TV. Turn off TV after noticing every channel is airing a clone of "While You Were Sleeping," "Titanic," or, worse yet, a "Friends" Valentine's Day.

-Realize how lame not having a hot date is. Log back in. Go to the nearest "free-sex" area.

-Boink a random someone - male or female - with way too much facial hair... or Ruth'd for that matter.

-Delete their card if you were actually stupid enough to trade with them. Remember (and regret) this incident for the next 364 days. Complain about never having a good V-Day.

-Wait until some bizarre calendar date Hallmark has labeled "Sweetest Day." Rinse, lather, repeat to get in practice for next V-Day.

As for Cupid... I mean really, a naked baby with wings shooting arrows at people? More creative things have been created by bad acid!

To sum it up, Valentine's Day is yearly added stress that takes an additional 3 to 4 years off your life expectancy, as if re'ships, virtual or otherwise weren't tough enough to begin with.

Note: If "Titanic" is on, it can be therapeutic. But only if you only watch the part where Leonardo DiCaprio sinks like a big, wet, adorable, lead anvil to the bottom of the North Atlantic! Same goes for the end of "Romeo + Juliet."

I think that says it all. :)






















Sheer Cupidity

Giving much thought to the words of a well-known close friend and all-around wise pixel, I decided this year that I would embrace Valentine's Day. I had a sort of epiphany about many year's of hating, dreading, or attempting to ignore this day and what it has gotten me in the past. Not much. No matter how much you decree it as just another day, or stupid commercial holiday, blah blah blah... I swear by the end of the day you end up feeling let down or pissed off at some imaginary slight. Doesn't matter if you have reason to have expectations or not... at the end of the day, SOMEONE will have disappointed you. Why? Well because it exists. Recognize that the day is coming and that it won't EVER EVER go away... there's too much money to be made. And though that might sound cynical, really it just takes a teensy flip in attitude to make this black holiday just a lil more pink and red :) That being said, here are some of my tips to help you embrace the day and let out your inner cupid (or at the very least, make the most of a day that has planted itself and won't ever die)...

-Cupid is not to be feared. If you have issues with him and what he represents, try instead to see him as the future prim child you and your soulmate will lovingly bring into the world.. Awww

-At night before you go to bed, ask Cupid to bring you sex, or chocolate

-Pass an object labeled as "Be My Valentine from [insert your name here]" that when rezzed turns out to be a gazillion wiggling pink and green HUGE prims with physics on... to your friends when they are, say, shopping in a crowded sim or playing Tringo

-IM every hawt guy on your friend's list and ask them where you can find a diaper... like pulling out a hair when you've banged up your elbow distracts you from the pain, the mortal embarrassment of this will distract you from your bleeding heart

-WEAR red! I recommend that always anyhow, but just go with it. And by all means, be fashionable about it! Dammit!

-Cheese it up... get poofers and hearts and barfy stuff in general and just plaster wherever you are with them... if they're laughing, chances are they won't be all boofriggenhoo'ing

-Wear hearts. Yup, goofy stockings, prims on your face, specialty vday skins... if you got it wear it. Then you can blame your lack of 'someone special' on the fact that you look like a complete nerd... wait, I'm supposed to be pro-vday, I forget. Plus, you can get some use out of all those freebies you've been scavenging for... don't lie, we're all freebie whores.

-Teach your children while they're young that Romeo & Juliet has been celebrated as the great romantic love story for long enough. It's time to reveal the truth which is that it is a wordy tale about a couple of emo kids with too much time on their hands.

-Open up an IM and send a heart to everyone one your friends list. (Tip: right-click your Calling Cards folder in your inventory and click on Start Conference...) No need to personalize this.

-Get on with teh secks. Expecting spectacular sex on Valentines day is a roadmap for disaster. I have to agree with Jelly here. Get an alt if you have to... get to a "free sex" sim STAT and just dive in. The groups and missing image n00bs are only intimidating for the first few minutes (or so I've heard). Will it be spectacular? No. The real question is... Will it live up to your expectations? MOST LIKELY! Prolly won't wind you up all that much but pointing and laughing is a better use of your time than pouting.

-February 14th a.k.a Valentines Day is a real live day on the official calendar and all. Pretending it's like Feb. 13th or 15th is just... well... kinda delusional. No amount of "it's just another day" or "a thursday that's all" is going to magically make Vday like the 13th floor of a high rise that just doesn't exist.

-Start a holiday tradition. Make a game of sorting all the inappropriate candy hearts from the rest of them. These days you could earn a stalker from hell or the hate of all the kids' parents at school because you allowed little Sally Sue to give out hearts that say "I want you", "Lick Me", or "Be My Soulmate".

-364 days a year you do your best. This one day, focus on making it count. Just in case you slip up during the year, this is a fail safe way to remind those close to you that they matter... Today at the very least if not everyday.

It's the little things. Don't just make it just about that one and only person you care about. Reach out to those around you and try to surround yourself with people you'd do anything for... like dropping a happy face on them. You might find that this dreaded day is not so bad and that in the end you can smile or laugh creating better memories of the day that always comes. Wrap your arms around it and give it a big, wet, sugary kiss! Trust me, you'll thank me for it :D

Glam sl Magazine Launch: An Offer I Couldn't Refuse

It's a rare case that I get invited to an SL event of huge interest to me that I can actually attend without rl or time zones interferring. I was lucky that today's Glam sl Magazine launch was one of those times. I could portray myself as a jet-setting, worldly fashion diva who sees these events as everyday and 'routine', but that'd be a lie. Truth be told, I was thrilled to be included and totally in a state of panic about what attire would be best... "I have nothing to wear!" And when you are requested to limit the number of prims that you wear, does that mean you go bald and wear default shoes? Ewww. Thankfully, vanity won out over conservation, because as it turns out, there was hair and shoes a'plenty.

Arriving early, I wasn't sure what to expect. The invite stated 'Launch Party and Fashion Show' and I guess I was expecting more of a press release for the new mag with events centered around that. We were given a very brief, one paragraph typed introduction to the new magazine.

Welcome everyone to the launch of GLAM sl Magazine, we would like to extend our appreciation in your interest. The team has worked for many weeks to present to Second Life a new form in publication. Under the direction of Minnu, Thora, Onyx, and Beau, this publication is focused on introducing high quality and high end fashion to Second Life. We would like to thank the designers for contributing and making the event possible. We would like to open the floor up to questions. To reduce chat spam, we ask that you please take turns and ask maximum of three questions each.

Immediately, I felt like I'd missed something. Was there homework that I'd not realized was assigned? I hadn't even had the opportunity to flip open the cover of the magazine yet. Unfortunately, though I'm sure there were hours and hours dedicated to the creation and launch of this new publication, it seemed at first that this launch was less about christening the new collaborative effort and more about creating hype for the fashion show that was to come. Questions requiring more details about the purpose of the magazine and what would make it stand out next to other publications were answered with a mysterious 'you'll have to wait and read it to find out' at first, before the team assembled before us warmed more to the idea and began to illustrate some of their passion for the magazine. Striving to mirror rl fashion magazines, Glam sl aims to publish a monthly magazine that will:

• Educate and challenge the fashion groups within SL
• Focus more on style than on the current fashion trends
• Bring great designers together to raise the bar
  
• Illustrate the difference between designers and GREAT designers
• Encourage the efforts of great up and coming designers
• Not try keep up with the fashion trends, but to set them

Following the press conference was the fantastic, absolutely beautifully-executed fashion show featuring Ghost, Artilleri, Muism, Lookr, Maitreya, Serene Sensations, MM skins, Nicky Ree, le Cubic Effect, LeeZu Baxter, Veschi, and the debut of Paper Couture's spring line. And I know it was beauuuuutiful, not because I could rezz and take pictures of it myself (puter sucks as it turns out), but because I can look at other people's Flickr sites... haha. Clearly well-produced and pulled off by true professionals, the fashion show exceeded all my expectations. From the set itself... the stark white of the stairs and mystical sheer backdrop where you could see the silhouettes of the models coming and going... to the timing and grace of the models (despite the lag of 80+ people in the sim). In addition to the the musical ambiance provided by dj duckyfresh Watanabe. Striking... bold... utterly mouth-watering. For me, it was an honor to have been able to be there.


It was after all the glitz and gawking (omg I sat next to Ava Lu!) that I was able to pull the magazine out and take a long look at it. I'm a sucker for a good picture and sleek ads and Glam has those... similar in style to Homme Magazine. Noteworthy articles and interviews piqued my interest and kept me turning the page. Glam sl Magazine has set some lofty goals for themselves. It will be interesting to see how they measure up to their ideals and how diverse the publication will be when it comes to design and fashion in SL.

See more pictures from the show at:

• Gillian's Flickr
• The Diva Rockin's Flickr
• Phoenix Chapman's Flickr
  
• My Flickr (warning these are sub par!!)
  

Allowing Comments: A Mean Girls Policy

Some time back we turned off anonymous commenting for our blog posts. Though there was a specific post and reason for the decision at the time, we had conveniently decided to leave it off and just “forget” to turn it back on. There were many reasons for this decision. Anyone anywhere reading any blog has seen the drama trapeze act that comes a lot of times from anonymous commenting. I follow some of them too, sometimes with my mouth agape at the faux confidence and self-righteousness of people who are clearly so sure of themselves, and the importance of their message, that they feel no need to cloud the issue by stating who they are. Many times watching some blog post or other (an opinion stated or shared) turn into something truly ugly or seeing that the drivel in the comments section becomes the main show while the post itself is deferred to merely background noise.

Just as I feel that it is the right of anyone to write a blog stating their opinions or views whether or not they are the correct ones, I also feel that it is the right of anyone to be able to argue your point, defend yourself… discuss, debate. I’ve seen posts come and go… everything truly outrageous that’s gotten your feathers ruffled is usually a forgotten event within a couple of months, weeks even. I’ve watched publicly the confusion and anxiety caused over a post gone wrong in the comments section. I’ve seen policies implemented in some fashion blogs that require a blogger to disclose their personal knowledge of the content creator being reviewed at the end of their post just so that no one else gets their panties in a wad over any “alleged” favortism. Someone reviewing something a friend made? OMG, the outrage! Is that nepotism? Please. If you’ll notice, even some of the blogs content creators themselves maintain to let people know about their new releases no longer accept comments. Period. Why? Well, because there are disgruntled, angsty people everywhere. Some with an axe to grind or latent emotional issues due to not being breast-fed who are still looking for attention… no matter how they come by it. And thanks to them, you can no longer tell your favorite designer in a comment how much you love their latest release.

I’ve had several discussions with my cohorts regarding comments. Although we don’t all like the idea of anonymous commenting (myself included!), for the most part we agree that we’d like to go back to a more open format for anyone to share their views. Because Sharing is Caring! That being said, we are not therapists and comment section content that requires serious mental evaluation will not be allowed. Quite simply, only one of us is a trained professional and it would be irresponsible to allow you to put your care in our hands :)Think of us as the Dr. Phils of SL, doing what we can for the Brittany’s out there without making a single linden in the process.

Besides, everyone already knows that I’m a 68 year-old man who weighs 550lbs and lives in his mother’s basement. So there won’t be any need for you to point that out ~anonymously~ in a comment when you disagree with my stated opinion in a post.

To simplify, we are allowing anonymous comments until we decide not to either for a single post or indefinitely. Inappropriate, deranged, misogynistic comments that cross a line, will not be allowed. Try Gor for that. So choose your words wisely. If you’d like to share, discuss, or debate… you are welcome! Now, Bring it!

"Deception" & Friends :)

Rosie Shark: afk
JellyBean Madison: kk
(few minutes later... )
JellyBean Madison: pssst
JellyBean Madison: Rosie
JellyBean Madison: pssst Rosie
Rosie Shark: lol hmm?
JellyBean Madison: look at my feet

So I did what any rational, totally normal, totally justified friend would do (I can only take so much ya know). I knocked her down! And ripped those totally gorgeous-just-had-to-have boots off her snide lil feet! Yeahhhh she may look tough, but I whoop'd her ass!

Then I gave them back cuz she pulled my hair and I like broke a nail. Ok, so my face is a little messed up, but you should see the other guy!


Boots: "Deception" Sinistyle (released now!)
Skin: "Busted Ho" 1313 Mocking Bird Lane (release coming soon?)
Hair: "Angel II" Armidi
Dress: "Jersey Pullover Set" Cake
Photosphere: Kyoot Army HQ

Are We Not Catty Women?

Seems as though the gauntlet has been thrown down and it’s time for a little clarity. Recent discussion has put forth theories that attempt to help individuals on either side of the gender line define what it is that make up either their Y or X chromosomes. After much flailing and a whole lot of hype, it’s clear that this is where we must step in. Opinions – I’m sure we’ll all be knee deep in them, but remember, ladies, are they not men? It is our solemn duty to lead these poor inept creatures to the troughs of fashion, excellence, and substance.

In an attempt to further illustrate what it is that makes you blue or pink, we’ve come up with a short list…

Real Men Don’t

• Wear Cherries
• Say ‘hehe’
• Fondle the breast size slider in appearance mode (that we agree on)
• Own a lot of skins. Let’s face it, simplicity is the name of the game and any more than 3-4 skins creates a variety that just confuses them.
• Organize their inventory. It’s all in the details, and let’s face it… the words ‘details’ and ‘men’ are completely unharmonious
• Don’t carry big spoons… or do they? Hmmmm…
• Know how to dress and accessorize… they require a woman for that. Unless, of course, they want to appeal only to the other loner guys at the sandbox who are so busy “blowing shit up” that they wouldn’t know a decent pair of trousers if it bit them in the ass.
• Really know the names of at least 3 Nascar drivers… If someone you know actually does, the question of virility comes up. Is this macho rawr heavy machinery idolatry or the simple cover up of a man in the throes of understanding which team he’s really playing for?
• Need to wax on and on and ON about what real men are and what they do. They’re too busy keeping up with their high-maintenance gfs. And are secure enough in their manliness that they don’t need to take such a combative stand.
• Worry about a demographic “typical males” that isn’t being provided for. Seriously? How did you find the time with all of your nail-biting, fashion-blog skimming, and shopping?
• Knock others with true style simply because they are too un-evolved to make their own look and instead use the pages of comic books to get their dastardly and unimaginative style. Don’t be hater, y0, Malibu Ken is hawt. Sorry you weren’t born with those genes.
• Come up with great blog titles... This is where you guys shine like the true men that you claim to be :D
  

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**posted by JellyBean Madison, who’s so busy doing the devil’s bidding that she used ghostwriter, Rosie Shark, and added a few of her own thoughts. Hey, so what if this is like the bathroom and we go in pairs… we’re girls, sue us. /us watch to see if we learned how to do the ‘cut’ on feeds.

Kitty's Fate in Your Hands

*Updated*


Well it seems I may have overreacted and said a hasty goodbye to Miss Kitty Lalonde. I have read her apology and honestly, she had me at "teh lolcat..." ::tear:: But, to ensure I make the right decision, I've decided to ask you, the loyal reader, if Kitty should indeed be welcomed back into the MG fold. Is her apology enough? Will she really live up to her promises to be less... evil?

Poll will only be up for one day. Please vote wisely. The future of the sl blogosphere depends on it.

*Edit* Your wish is our command.

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Rip Off Fraud Exposed! as... as a Bigger Rip Off!

It's with a heavy heart that I make this post. Something has happened that has forced me to leave my seclusion and deal with the goings on of the new additions to the Mean Girls bloggers. Each one of us at Meangirls has always done our own thing, with no censure or judgement. The trust and camaraderie among us has allowed us to create a blog that is as individual as it's contributors. It's a sad day when I have to put an end to all that.

It's clear to me now that Jelly and I made a mistake when we invited Kitty Lalonde to join us at the Mean Girls. Her recent allegations of wrong-doing by resident Zennor Cornwall caught my eye and piqued my interest. What was even more interesting was the discovery that this was much more of a mess than it first seemed to be.

Upon my visit to this so-called store, I found some very unsettling facts. For starters, Zennor is a member of Tiny Empires. What could this mean?! But that was only the beginning! I hate to admit that I spent my 200L to buy said prim (I chose a cube), but I had to in order to get to the bottom of this! It seems not only that this business was created in SL to defraud the new, and otherwise inexperienced players, but it was not created by some noob who maybe could have been explained as not knowing any better. To my horror, Zennor Cornwall's prims were made by none other than Kitty Lalonde herself! (proof provided)




Not only has Kitty created an alt to do her dastardly deeds, but she's also used this blog to promote her nefarious ways and turn a quick linden. And I cannot let that go unnoticed or unpunished.

Normally, I would not openly promote drama on this blog, but I feel I have no choice but to cut all of Kitty's ties with the blog and out her for the underhanded shyster that she is. On the flip side, GO ME... I so scooped this story!

Kindly State University - Go Team!

We got bearclaws, yes we do. We got bearclaws... how 'bout you?! Welcome to an inside look at Kindly State University.

...Kindly State University is a college themed roleplay, set in The North West United States. KSU is the all grown up big sister of KHS. (If you were born after KHS, or didn't know about it you missed out on a great time!) After much thought, deliberation, and the constant nagging of those very fond of KHS, we decided to bring it back, just updated.

Created and developed by Redd Columbia and Roberta Beauchamp, KSU is a sprawling campus sim providing almost limitless opportunities to mold a college-themed roleplay environment to your liking. Although still putting the finishing touches on their builds and ideas, both were gracious enough to treat us to a tour... complete with descriptive tales of the origin of the college as well freebies that helped us get into character! It seems they have thought of everything and it's apparent that a lot of discussion and sharing of ideas has helped shape their dreams into a very unique and wonderful opportunity for a lot of people to get more out of their game.

I liked the idea of this RP before I got a looksee at all they've created, but now I'm determined to get in and will be in line to get a room in Red Hall to share with Jell (if she doesn't ditch me for the coed Green Hall with Hawks :P) Ohhhh wait, haha you can't share a room with a boy! And no boys in your room between midnight and 6am! Too bad for you!

We are trying to stay as close to a REAL college as possible, including campus police, tuition (for a small fee and LOADS of awesome freebies), Greek Houses and rush, sports facilities, live concerts and financial aid for those who qualify. We are always open to new ideas and suggestions.

Of course you can choose to be out of character (OOC) while at Kindly State, although I don't know why you would. Rules have been put in place to try to preserve the realism created for this rp. Sorry, furries! My first thought is to RP this as a student, but there are so many ways you could play this. What kind of student are you? What's your major? Will you pledge a sorority or fraternity? I recommend steering clear of Kappa Omega Zomma. However if your rp fantasy is to be a maid, this might be the place for you. There are so many ways to find your place here. Some will choose to teach, or enforce rules, be an RA, head up the award-winning cheer program, or even be Darnell - the Kodiak bear mascot (only thing close to furry allowed :P)

I have to say the whole thing is very exciting and I look forward to seeing how it turns out. Such care and detail has been put into it and there is just so much you could sink your teeth into and make it your own experience. From the huge Samuel Lee Sports and Events Center that will be home to live performances as well as school functions and events, to the KSU Creative Learning Facility with it's Award Winning Nationally Famous KSU Dinner Theater, to the choices of housing if you choose to live on campus. Other features of KSU include:

• Fitness Center offering weight lifting, yoga, and treadmills
• Nicolo's Wood Fired Pizza Parlor (be a waitress! or a pizza chef!)
• The Beach at Lake More Superior -- a tiny little oasis featuring a cave for... uhh... it's your dream! act accordingly!
• Freebies and fun stuff!

- Rosie

A potential student reviews her options...


So I didn't quite manage to graduate from KHS, but yay me, I got my GED. I'm an excited future KSU Kodiak! Yup, I'm heading off to the University this semester, if I'm accepted that is.

It's funny how the years of high school seem to drag by, then suddenly commencement shows up, and you begin to consider that time travel might not be so impossible. Next, you figure that the summer is, what, three months? That's awhile before school starts again... wrong.

The KSU tour ROCKED! I can't decide which of the many facilities I liked the most, but the Art classroom & the Creative Learning facility were definitely high on the list. I'm thinking I definitely wanna be a drama major. :D I have big hopes & dreams of becoming a famous SLactress that also writes, produces, directs & stars in her own films kind of like Kevin Smith & Quentin Tarantino. Who knows, I may get my start at KSU.

During last night's tour you could just feel the breeze whip around you as the autumn leaves fell softly on the ground. This is my school. We were able to check out the sweet, yet snobby Sorority house. I'm not quite sure if that's for me. I think I'll look more into the dorms offered & see if any that fit me better pop up on campus. Delta Zomma Omega Sorority might just be too cutesy for me. Omg! Cute might actually be a factor for getting in after seeing pics of the current roomies there. To afford tuition, my dorm room, school supplies, & other necessities, I will definitely have to keep my part-time DJ'n job at Clockwork.

Well that's it... I'm ready to pack my entire slife into a few suitcases & go. KSU here I come!

-Jelly

• TP there come Opening Day! Kindly State University
• Sim opens October 17th
• Visit the website... should be up and running tomorrow! To apply.
• Tuition is L$200, includes a laptop + freebies. Annnndddd, Financial Aid is available to those who qualify!
  

Oh Baby Don't

Orchid Glitterbuck: Guess what I'm hiding under this umbrella of a skirt?

The subtle, romantic whimsy that is the babydoll dress is totally lost on me. Every one I now see is immediately dismissed as same as the last and something I have absolutely 0 interest in ever purchasing or wearing... again :P It's not just a little frightening, and somewhat humorous that all three of us were able to produce these from our inventory.

Are some of them made very well? Yes. Do they have that pretty, delicate, flowy, ethereal feel to them? Yes, most of the time. Does every one of your favorite designers in SL offer their own variation of this same, tired, overly done blah look? YES. Does this mean you should buy 1, 2, 642 of them? Oh hell, by all means, NO! Fashion is made, err... "fashionable" by that which is worn. You can lead a gaggle of fashionistas, shoppers, and trend-setters to your organized and deliberate closet, but you can't make them dress! Don't you have eyes? I know mine are bleeding from the influx of cutesy, withering, ultra-femininity that is every ad or fashion blog posting every new babydoll release.

In an attempt to understand the babydoll revolution, I really gave some thought to what might be the motivation for wearing, let alone purchasing, a Babydoll dress or top. In my own case, I think it was about loving the designer's work. Like a fan, maybe, I tried to have all their albums :P Something about loyalty, yadda yadda, that makes us sometimes buy things that aren't the best choice, yet we're totally behind this particular designer and their work. Iunno. Can't even be sure how many I actually have in my inventory although I'm embarrassed to admit it. It was a look I tried, I caved to popular fashion opinion, I said baaaa. It is, however, high time we move on to other fashion trends and interject a bit more variety into our repertoire. Really? You find this attractive? How so? In a MaMa ::sucks on pacifier:: kind of way? A trend that never seems to die but has lived long past it's time. Babydolls. In no way is this *the* look for anyone sl or rl for that matter... no matter what kind of body type or shape you have.


A frumpy, stuff-it-all under style that is only relieved by the rack you're sporting, which, by all accounts seems to be exactly what the "dress" is pointing to. A look that says "hey guys, not only am I the fertile type (evidenced by how I will look pregnant with your prim child), I am also equipped with these mammoth nutrient-giving orbs to promote strength, health, and vitality". We know there are some of you out there still buying them...

Why?

Misdaventures in Cyber, the Stolen Transcripts; Vol. II

Sexy Rach
“SexyRach”: Wanna cyber?
“Badness”: Yeah I'm up for that
“SexyRach”: OK, but don't tell anybody
“SexyRach”: Who are you?
“Badness”: I've got blond hair, blue eyes, I work out a lot
“Badness”: And I have a part time job delivering for Papa Murphy's in my Geo Storm.
“SexyRach”: You sound sexy… I bet you want me in the back of your car…
“Badness”: Maybe some other time. You should call up Papa Murphy's and make an order
“SexyRach”: Haha! OK… Hello! I'd like an extra-EXTRA large pizza just dripping with sauce.
“Badness”: Well, first they would say, "Hello, this is Papa Murphy's, how may I help you", then they tell you the specials, and then you would make your order.
“Badness”: So that's an X-Large. What toppings do you want?
“SexyRach”: I want everything, baby!
“Badness”: Is this a delivery?
“SexyRach”: Umm...Yes
“SexyRach”: So you're bringing the pizza to my house now? Cause I'm home alone... and I think I'll take a shower...
“Badness”: Good. It will take about fifteen minutes to cook, and then I'll drive to your house...
“SexyRach”: I'm almost finished with my shower... Hurry up!
“Badness”: You can't hurry good pizza.
“Badness”: I'm on my way now though...
“SexyRach”: So you're at my front door now.
“Badness”: How did you know?
“Badness”: I knock but you can't hear me cause you're in the shower. So I let myself in, and walk inside. I put the pizza down on your coffee table.
“Badness”: Are you ready to get nasty, baby? I'm as hot as a pizza oven
“SexyRach”: Oooohh yeah. I step out of the shower and I'm all wet and cold.
Warm me up baby
“Badness”: So you're still in the bathroom?
“SexyRach”: Yeah, I'm wrapping a towel around myself.
“Badness”: I can no longer resist the pizza. I open the box and unzip my pants with my other hand.
“Badness”: As I penetrate the gooey cheese, I moan in ecstacy. The mushrooms and Italian sausage are rough,
“Badness”: but the sauce is deliciously soothing. I blow my load in seconds. As you leave the bathroom, I exit through the front door...
“SexyRach”: What the Fuck?
“SexyRach”: You perverted piece of Shit
“SexyRach”: fuck you!

-blocked me-

Karla
“Badness”: You ready yet? I’m bearing to go!
“Karla”: Yeah I’m slipping out of my clothes right now, what do you look like?
“Badness”: a Kodiak bear
“Karla”: ?
“Badness”: I’m soft naked, fuzzy and waiting for you to come mount me
“Karla”: Oh I love cute fuzzy bears, I walk up and get on top of you
“Karla”: stroking your soft hair, kissing you gently as my move my way down your stomach
“Badness”: I growl to warm you my cubs are near
“Karla”: huh?
“Badness”: Bears get fuckin pumped when anyone is near their cubs
Sexkarla17: yeah hehe dont be silly…
“Karla”: I love how you growl as I continue to kiss you, while taking off your pants.
“Badness”: Bears don’t wear pants and you should cover yourself in Honey now
“Karla”: hehe you would love to lick that off me huh. I pour honey all over my warm wet body waiting for you to start licking it off me slowly
“Badness”: I sniff the air to see where the sweet scent of the honey is coming from, while slowly snorting and walking towards you
“Badness”: I Growl again, and start to bite you
“Karla”: Yeah that feels good..ooooo...not too hard now
“Badness”: I bite harder peeling flesh from your stomach, and look up into your eyes to show you my mouth dripping with your warm blood mixed with honey,
“Badness”: I then I let my cubs rip apart your limbs and play with you like a ragdoll.
“Karla”: what the Fuck!!!
“Badness”:uuuuuuuuuuuuhhhhhhhhh and I’m spent.

hOttie
“Badness”: I'm hard, you ready to jump aboard?
“hOttie”: oh yeah I’m so wet right now
“Badness”: Why you just shower?
“hOttie”: no I’m wet for you
“Badness”: Did you ever play with supersoakers when you were a kid? or that gator thing?
“Badness”: you would dive and slide down, there was that badass pool at the end of it.
“hOttie”: What the Fuck are you talking about? You wanna cyber or not?
“Badness”: I do! Sorry...I just didn’t know why you were wet...
“Badness”: Then you say your wet for me, and I’m thinking I didn’t even throw water on you...
“Badness”: I’m sorry lets continue!
“hOttie”: alright then...I walk over to you and start kissing your neck and chest
“Badness”: I pop like 16 boners
“hOttie”: what the Fuck!!!
“Badness”: what?

Lemmings, Starfuckers, or Attention Whores?

It's not often that we get to write a not-so-favorable review of another blog. It's been our thing to promote those blogs out there that deserve to be read because of their witty, entertaining content or the diversity of their views and insights. This is not one of those times.

I've become aware of a certain... change of direction in one purely fashion SL blog to a more "hard-hitting" and scandalous style. It's their blog, they're entitled to write what they want however they see fit. I'd just like to point out that grand-standing and name calling do not make you a better writer or "journalist". Nor can you ascertain the talent of a "writer" by counting the number of comments on a post. Just a lil reality check :)

All these things and more can be said about the second blog I bring to your attention. Perhaps you've seen it. It has all the characteristics that a potential blog-reader/dramite would appreciate. The only problem is... it's total crap. Brutal Honesty is what they offer although all I've seen so far is the poorly written whining of a have-not couple in SL.

I'm all for expressing your opinion, but maybe offer alternatives? Just a thought. Why not lend credibility to your opinion by covering all aspects of something? Can you not find value in it? Or maybe this is a game of smoke and mirrors. Honesty is something that is in short supply in SL but it can be done with eloquence and reason. Trash Talking is just that. Trash. And yappering. Anyone can pick up the Sun Times in line at the grocery store. Doesn't mean they have taste... or can read.

Seems as though this blog will do well enough. There are plenty of glass is half-empty people in SL and everyone is a critic... or a hyper-critic in this case. Check it out. I can't promise that it will do much more than make you say "OMG". And despite their claim that it's not 'drama', I'm sure that's just what they'd want you to say :)

You be the judge.

~Rosie
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As a Mean Girl I take pride in my posts. I love that I can be honest, humorous, throw in a little satire & get good old fashion feed back without starting a firestorm (on purpose - sometimes ya'll just don't "get" me). I think that in any case it has been noted that here at MGG2SL we've had some drama here & there, sometimes we stir pots that others don't dare touch. We do it because we care and it's a risk we choose to take. We're not afraid to tackle controversial issues that effect our daily slives, piss us off, or tell you our honest opinions on a designer's work in a non-combative way. Honestly, sugar coating, pussy footing and blowing sunshine up one's ass does not encourage growth. Same can be said for screaming like a lunatic in someone's face. You're not going to get desired results or a happy ending. You know you want happy ending. *wink*

There is a difference between not sugar coating & maliciousness. Yes, our blog is called "Mean Girls Guide to SL" and it's fitting for us. Mean & malicious have two different definitions... Look em up, it's not my job. Point is a lot of blogs have popped up over the vast blogosphere in the last couple of months. Some are well written, honest, witty and enjoyable to read (these are the ones we choose to post weekly as a "Blawg to Watch"). Others though read more like tabloids stabbing individuals with words and read of overall crap. I noticed the tide turn in the particular "fash" blog, and I think it's cute. Awww. As for the BH blog, within two posts they completely contradicted themselves. Drama, maliciousness, anger, shock (did they really say that?) makes a popular blog unfortunately. Not necessarily a "good" blog. It's like a train wreck, you feel the need to see the gross stuff. Why? I have to agree with Rosie, "grand-standing and name calling do not make you a better writer or "journalist"... it just makes you an ass. If that's all you have to offer, I would like to suggest you sit down & re-evaluate being a blogger of stuff.

I am flattered as I'm sure the rest of the MGs are about the many blogs popping up taking a more honest approach in the footsteps of what we do here. For those of you doing it wrong, we appreciate you trying, but we got this, kkthnx.

♥JellyBean♥

Drama: Stays Crunchy! Even in Milk!

If you've been around in SL for any length of time then you're already aware that Drama is a predominant part of life and culture here. It's really the glue that holds us all together :) And as much a part of our culture is the self-righteous proclaimations of hating drama.

I can't remember the last time I actually said the words: "I hate drama". And if I evaluate this in myself, I find it's good and bad... Good because look... I am a part of this very blog you're checking out. To say I hate drama would be fairly to extremely hypocritical. Bad, because what's the alternative to saying those three little words? Take a Pro Drama stance? I'm not really campaigning for more, but what's to hate? Sure, it sucks when you are being bombarded with opposing viewpoints or in an argument with someone that you can't seem to win, or when dealing with anyone who is different than you. These are all part of relating to other people. You can't just lump someone else's opinion or their choice of how or where to share it into the bin labeled 'drama'. There are times when I love a good drama. Honestly, I usually do. Does this mean I start drama? Don't we all? Be honest. It's not a conscious decision usually... I shall go and start some drama... unless you're trying to promote a new product and thinking any publicity is good publicity.

“What is drama but life with the dull bits cut out”

I'm bored with the ever popular soapbox stand on hating drama. I'd like to point out that it's usually the ones with the highest flying I-Hate-Drama flags that start the most shit... or suddenly *hand to forehead* find themselves smack dab in the middle of ugly nastiness and they can't seem to imagine how they got there. Woe is you. This isn't always true, but I have learned that those with the anti-drama warnings in their profiles, the NO DRAMA signs posted in their homes... they are the ones to steer clear of. You're so sick of "drama", yet you insist on having relationships in sl, writing a blog, commenting on posts (anon or not), sharing your opinion with the world at large, and listening to the opinions of others, or talking about other people (and you know you do), etc. And low and behold drama *magically* finds you. In essence, to stop the dreaded drama I suggest you live in a hole.

So, when you're stating to the sl world at large that you are "Anti-Drama", what message is it that you are hoping to give? 'splain, please? Is it that you are declaring to the world that you've seen it, done it, have the tee shirt, and now you need a rest? And what exactly is your definition of drama? Did someone get too serious? Say something you didn't want to hear? Call you out for something? What is it that makes it drama? What I've noticed is that drama has been the catchall for any subject matter that stirs attention and makes you wanna choke a bitch. "oh drama, drama, drama." Translation: I am a very important and busy person who knows many interesting and challenging people (insert exasperated sigh)." All this seems dramatic in nature by the way. So you label the subject matter, incident, or person as Drama... we all breathe a sigh of relief and disregard it as not worthy of our attention, and beneath the high and mighty place where we like to reside. Drama is a part of slife, it seems. There is good and bad. There are starters, stirrers, and watchers.

What's the difference between good and bad drama? Who determines which is which?

Dear Rosie... Signed PrimEnvy (+ More!)

Dear Rosie,

There's this guy, right? He's always hanging around my girl...literally. I swear...his prims are bigger and better scripted than mine. Why do I feel intimidated and lesser of a man because of this?

~Sincerely,
PrimEnvy in Primeworks

Dear PrimEnvy,

Well you feel this way because you are! I could sugar coat it by telling you some crap about how it’s what’s on the inside that counts, but then I’d just be enabling you to be content with who you are. And that just won’t do! Perhaps it’s time to invest in superior prim enhancements. Sure you won’t be truly unique if you buy off the rack, but you’ll be keeping up with the Joneseses and that’s what counts! Most importantly, learn to recognize that feelings of envy and inadequacy are nature’s way of letting you know that you need to improve. Retire your inferior, flaccid old-faithful and upgrade to state of the art! Oooo, maybe go sculptie! Your girlfriend will thank you for it!

*Rosie
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Dearest Rosie,

My SL ex-boyfriend won't get over me. I've moved on and after 2 years, he hasn't. I think it's starting to bother my current boyfriend in SL. What should I do?

~Yours truly,
Happy in SL

Dear Happy in SL,

What should you do? Hmmm… Blog it?

*Rosie
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Dear Rosie

... my friend finds it difficult to select an outfit, please advise how to help her.

~Waiting Expectantly

Dear Waiting,

All good things come to those who wait :) Hope this helps!

*Rosie
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Dear Rosie,

I recently have gotten back together with my ex. I am very happy with them, but whenever I am in sl I wish I had more freedom. I find that if I am not doing what they want with their friends then I get left out of the picture or I feel uncomfortable when I do get to hang with them. Sometimes I even get ignored, which makes me start to wish I was able to just go hang with others and not feel guilty about it. I have even confronted my significant other explaining the problem. Instead of it resolving anything it usually just starts an argument and they throw things in my face from the past. I do not want to break up, but I am feeling a bit neglected. What do I do?

~Neglected

Dear Neglected,

Ahhhh what’s slove without feelings of guilt, boredom, awkwardness, and cheap shots? I say, make an alt! Hell, make several! Do what you wanna do! No one gets snippy, everyone stays calm, they just think Oh my my “neglected” is soooo busy and never in SL! Easy Peasy!

*Rosie
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Dear Rosie,

I IM my friends throughout the day many times to see how they are. If I don't get a response, I IM them again with the same exact message. Sometimes on the third attempt I try to be a little quirky. I think they may find me annoying. Why wouldn't someone want a friend like me?

~How are you today?

How,

STALKER! Don’t IM me again!

*Rosie
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Dear Rosie-
I just read JB's post about the mantourage. Do you have any advice on where I find men willing to be in my mantourage? I don't have to put out, right? You guys are experts. Thank God for MGG2SL!

~Seeking Mentourage

Dear Seeking,

Experts?! On putting out? What have you heard?! Send a note to JellyBean Madison in world. I know she’s currently working on a database of all eligible candidates for mantourages grid-wide! That girl has all the cool toys!

Rosie